Therapy
I see people in therapy who feel that they see the world differently or don’t quite fit into the world as it is - be it due to (potential) neurodivergence, trauma, or cultural differences.
You might be looking to:
do more than just get by and muddle though
understand yourself better or
understand how the past is affecting your present experiences
get through your present struggles.
I believe however you’re currently feeling is a message to you. Counselling can help you understand that message.
My Approach
My therapy work uses the principles of relational Gestalt therapy which emphasises a non-judgemental exploration of how you experience the world and the interplay between you and the world around you. I foster an atmosphere of acceptance in my work to allow you to bring all of you, even the sides that have been rejected by you or the world. I believe that this helps people become more of who they are rather than someone they’re not. In that, I see my role as that of the cheeky grandma in Disney’s Moana who helps her grand-daughter integrate the sides of herself that Moana’s parents deem unacceptable or dangerous.
Example themes
Living in or between different cultures
Mid-thirties crisis: realising that how you were dealing with life no longer works for you.
Carrying responsibility for a family member because society / the environment doesn’t have an answer for them.
Mid-thirties crisis: realising how you were dealing with life no longer works for you.
I basically stopped drinking alcohol in my mid thirties because my body could no longer handle the toxins after a social night out. And my body and mind also started saying no to following the path that is seen as socially acceptable and financially acknowledged. In my thirties, I had to stop pretending and really take stock of what I was willing and able to do with my life.
Do I wish that I had been able to do that earlier? Sure, but I needed the life experience and data of 30 years to figure myself out - especially because the average narrative of the mainstream culture just wasn’t much guidance to me.
I also encounter this pattern with my clients: the need to take a good look at themselves in their thirties - often while also parenting small children. This can be tough, but for the people that I see, continuing on the old path is just no longer an option.
Carrying responsibility for a family member because society doesn’t have an answer for them.
I have worked with people who had to take responsibility for a family member in childhood because society didn’t know how to deal with them or didn’t know how to provide space for them - often stigmatising them.
This can have a lasting impact on how we interact with the world and how we see ourselves. I work with people who want to understand that impact in order to reclaim their own agency over their life.
In-Person and Online
I currently offer weekly in-person (close to Angel tube station, London) and online sessions.
I recommend that you plan for a minimum of 12 weekly sessions and I also work in open-ended therapy.
Contact
If you are interested or have more questions, please contact me at info@bbeckercoaching.com.